Why is communication so important?
Using "I" statements
Imagine a scenario where you are exhausted at the end of the day. On top of everything you are dealing with, you’re not getting much help around the house. What is the best way to bring this up with the person you live with?
Begin what you say with “I” (instead of “You”). By doing this, you take responsibility for your own wants, thoughts and feelings rather than putting the responsibility or blame on the other person.
For example, the following way of communicating your needs may not be effective.
“You never do the washing up. It’s always a mess and I’m left to clean it up while you sit there on your phone. You are so lazy and self-entitled.”
Instead, you could try –
“I feel frustrated when I am left to clean up the dishes, because I often don’t have time to do everything myself. I would like your help with the washing up and then we could sit and relax together.”
Now try re-wording the following sentence yourself.
“You never tell me how you’re feeling, I’m not a mind reader.”
Quotes from family and friends
You are not alone if you struggle to communicate with the person you support.
“(I don’t know) what to say at times.
He doesn’t always want to talk about it with me.” – Partner.
“John not communicating what he needs…I find it overwhelming.
I don’t really understand what he is going through.” – Partner.
Family and friends have told us that it’s not always easy for people to talk about their mental health and wellbeing. You might be put off talking to your loved one about their mental health or suicidal thoughts for fear of saying the wrong thing and ‘making it worse’. You may not be familiar or comfortable with these discussions, but they are important.
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